One of my best friends is NB/"transman" now, and I find it exhausting to talk to her now. She always has to call everyone ~cis~, and just sounds really cult-y. I feel like I have to either distance myself from her, or tell her I'm gender critical, and don't believe in all the gender woo.
And she calls herself "gay" & "fag", but dates women?? I just can't...
I would maybe be careful about telling them you're gender critical if you think this person might lash out and tell everyone you're a "terf" (I agree with what you're saying btw I've just seen the kind of shit that that anyone who is remotely gender critical has to deal with and it can be scary>
True. It's so fucked up, and just the modern version of "feminazi". I already follow some gender critical women on Instagram, which is risky, but I'm just over the bullshit.
She’s not your best friend anymore, sorry. She’s a new person, escaping into a different identity, and you should distance yourself and make new friends. It’s better to rip the band aid off now than to walk on eggshells around her for the rest of your friendship, because she has chosen to surround herself with enablers so she will not get better.
no subject
(Anonymous) 2021-07-23 05:19 pm (UTC)(link)And she calls herself "gay" & "fag", but dates women?? I just can't...
no subject
(Anonymous) 2021-07-23 05:22 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
(Anonymous) 2021-07-23 05:24 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
(Anonymous) 2021-07-23 05:26 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
(Anonymous) 2021-07-23 05:29 pm (UTC)(link)Misogyny, but make it woke!
no subject
(Anonymous) 2021-07-23 05:36 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
(Anonymous) 2021-07-23 07:32 pm (UTC)(link)